Maid Of Honor Quits Wedding Because Husband Isn't Invited

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mattstaff
May 28, 2021 7:00 PM EDT

And the wedding drama just continues. Honestly, it's endless. There's always an emotional implosion lying in wait around the corner when there's a wedding on the horizon. It could be a nasty bridezilla or even mother-in-law who insists on being the waking nightmare of the day. In this case though, we have a bit of a testy situation that arises over the maid of honor's husband not being invited to the wedding. 

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    Font - AITA for refusing to attend a wedding when my husband is not welcome there? My (30f) friend (31f) is getting married in August. She invited me and my husband to the wedding already in October when she got engaged. I was asked to be her maid of honor. She didn't have the date imidiately as she wasn't sure how it will be with COVID and now she has the date and she told me she thinks it would be better if my husband didn't come. I asked her why and she didn't want to tell me at first but the
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    Font - I said that if my husband is not invited because of his hight I am not coming to her wedding. She said that the day is about her and not about me and my husband and I should respect her wishes about her day. She said that she counts with me as with the maid of honor and I can't do this to her. I told her she is being shallow and that it is either me and my husband or none of us. I talk about it with my husband and he think I am not the asshole and actually would think it would be bad of m
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    Font - I asked my friend and she said I am the asshole cause it is just one day and it is about the bride so I shouldn't make a drama out of it. So perhaps I am the asshole because I am focusing on me being there with my husband and not at what the bride wants? Edit: Thank you for your voting. I got so many I can't respond to all. I now see that I was not in the wrong to tell her that it is either both of us or none of us. Edit 2: UPDATE After all the support I got there I am making a move. I wr
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    Rectangle - idkwhattowritehere21 · 9h Certified Proctologist [22] NTA and she's not a real friend- I would tell her you're not going and unless she gives a real heartfelt apology you're not going to be friends anymore. G Reply 627 ...
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    Font - O 2 Awards NTA. You and your husband are 100% correct. What on earth did she think your response would be? I think "Both of us or neither of us" is entirely fair. For someone who is about to get married, she seems to have an odd idea of what marriage entails. You cant have it both ways. It sounds like she is essentially saying "My marriage is important, yours is not" G Reply 7.6k 3 ...
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    Rectangle - dfwnighthawk • 9h NTA. A couple is one. Excluding one because of some superficial trait is offensive and wrong. Replace height with weight, or physical deformity, or scar. Or race. 6 Reply 4 359 3 ...
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    Font - moirarosescrows · 9h NTA and I would completely ditch this person as a friend. 6 Reply 4 1.2k 3 ...
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    Organism - NTA I was fully prepared to come on here and vote differently because I assumed there would be an actual reason why she wouldn't want your husband there. But holy moly. Is she planning for your husband to be in every single picture? From my experience the SOs of the bridal party are maybe in like 2-3 shots of the whole day. She's being incredibly rude and shallow, and you don't need to deal with that. 6 Reply 4 284 4 ...
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    Font - zukolover96 • 8h Certified Proctologist [28] NTA. Are you sure this is actually about the height? Does she have any issues with your husband? G Reply 4 79 3 ...
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    Organism - NTA the whole 'weddings should be about the bride everything has to be their way and they can treat people however they want without consequence' is a load of horse shit. You're not obligated to go and may choose to decline for any reason you see fit. G Reply 4 172 3 ...
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    Font - Wingskull · 8h NTA - while it's her wedding it is your choice to be part of it and if you decide not to, she has to accept it. She's the AH in this for excluding your husband. A wedding is after all a union so if she can't accept your union to your husband and the fact, that it's the two of you or none, then it's her problem and she has no right to belittle/judge you G Reply 4 57 3 ...
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    Font - NTA. This notion that it's the bride's day can only really be taken too far. Brides shouldn't take it as a license to literally be assholes and make crazy demands of their guests. You don't owe this woman your time if she insists on being shallow and disrespectful. As an add-on, I actually think brides who fixate on their weddings as their DAY and therefore everyone has to indulge them and do everything EXACTLY the way they want are shallow and petty. You might want to reconsider this fri
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    Font - Massive-Emergency-42 · 8h Partassipant [1] NTA. It being the bride's special day has limits. I've read bridezilla stories where the bride wanted to do everything from changing a guests hair color to making everyone wear different height heels so everyone would be the exact same height. It's not about their day, it's about control. A wedding is meant to be friends and family coming together to celebrate a union. It's not a Hollywood production with a casting director. 6 Reply 32 3 ...
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    Rectangle - DeathGP · 9h Certified Proctologist [20] NTA- Honestly this isn't really surprising, if your friend is so shallow that your husband's height triggers her just ditch the judgy friend. G Reply 4 78 3 ...
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    Mammal - Tweakywolf · 8h Partassipant [3] NTA - yes it's her day, but it's not her day to start BS like that and not pay a price for it. "Your hubby's too short" "Ok, find a new MoH and a replacement friend, bye!" 4 24 3 G Reply
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    Font - ibque · 8h Wouldn't trust this friend to like you for you at this point. Also maybe they have to change some plans because you were/are the maid of honour, but the drama she talks about seems to come from her. NTA G Reply 1 19 3 ...
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    Rectangle - NTA this is ridiculous G Reply 1 13 3 ... +
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    Font - IbeatSARS2x • 8h Partassipant [1] NTA I can't believe she is demanding this request of you. She is being 100% ridiculous and this is 100% disappointing in her character. Hopefully this is not normal behavior for her because I would question our relationship and she will apologize. Do not move forward with any wedding festivities. Politely and firmly stand your ground. It would be wrong of you to attend, especially as the MOH role without your husband. G Reply 4 11 3 ...
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    Font - NTA. If her real concern is photos, people often use steps for this shit. She doesn't sound like anyone l'd want to be associated with, personally. G Reply 4 10 3 ...
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    Rectangle - teddlasso • 8h Her reasoning is completely backwards. It's going to look odd a couple years down the road and you are in the pics without your husband. NTA G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - BlackberryMaterial33 · 8h Partassipant [1] NTA. Her reasoning seems to be very childish. If she thought you were such an important factor to her wedding she shouldn't have even care about your husbands height. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - ForumSurfer90 · 8h NTA. Was in a similar situation but with family members . My siblings' invitations were rescinded. So i took it upon myself not to show up. G Reply 仓5
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    Font - needfulsalsa • 7h NTA. I can see why your husband does like her much. She is awful. Uninviting a guest over something like this is horrible and shows how shallow she is. If she expects you to choose her over your husband, and believes that being a bride gives her the right to judge and disrespect, better to tell her off like you did. 仓39 G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - -that-there-· 8h Partassipant [2] NTA. This "friend" of yours is a horrible person. G Reply ...
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